Making No Apologies

He's Here

2011-08-22T21:21:00.001-04:00

My grandson
Donovan Philip

I have 9 grandchildren now. I love them all but Donovan is the first to be a part of me.

He's perfect.

Mom had a lot of support.

This Nurse was so sweet.

She let all of us in to see the newest member of our family.

He quieted down as soon as Dad started talking

Of course the sibs were there to see their brother's first baby

I'd just like to say that I have terrific kids!

Less than a day old and he looks like he's ready to ask for the car keys.

Oh, he was born on his daddy's birthday.
What a gift.

A Very Special Road Trip

2011-06-19T09:13:00.171-04:00

I have a very special friend who lost her battle with cancer a short time ago.
I met her on Twitter as @Sprucehillfarm but it wasn't long before I knew her as Sarah.
She has many friends on Twitter and Facebook but there is a small group of us on Twitter that are really very close.
Sarah was the sunshine of our group.

Her family and friends held a celebration of her life yesterday and as some of you know, I love a good road trip. Plus, Sarah and I were in the process of setting a date for me to come visit when she passed so suddenly so how could I not go?

My travel companions were my lovely daughter in law Amy and granddaughter Alyssa.
I dropped them off in Baltimore and they visited with Amy's parents. Worked out beautifully.

I took along a few strays too.
These good friends couldn't make the trip but they were there in spirit.

@kayotickitchen
@LStuart1954
@acranch
@Pinkribbonwendi
@FurryPad
@wearsmanyhats
@Luvschrome
@outdoorsathome

I learned from Sarah's husband Paul that this is where they met when they were kids, the Deer Creek Overlook in Rock State Park. How fitting to hold the celebration of her life here.

And this is Sarah. Such a smile.
There were cards on the table for people to write fond memories or special thoughts. It felt good to write how much Sarah meant to us and to include the names of her friends who cared so much about her.
A few Twitter friends e-mailed their thoughts to me and I put them in the basket. I hope all of the good thoughts and kind words will help her family find comfort and peace.

She was loved by so many.

I Met the most friendly and wonderful people.
Her husband Paul was every bit as handsome as the pics on her blog and I could see why she called him her rock. He's a very special guy.
No pic though, sorry :(

This is Sara (@sstreettcook) and Maureen (@mostreett)
Sarah's Sisters-in-law. (Paul's sisters) Aren't they gorgeous?
I couldn't wait to meet them. They are so sweet. I was able to meet their parents too. Such a friendly family. Turns out the girls grew up less than 2 hours away from where I live and their parents still live there. What a small world!

Sarah's support group.
Fun group of ladies. Thanks for introducing me around and making me feel at home.

Some other people I had the pleasure of meeting. Wish I would've remembered to take a picture!
Keri (@Fab5Momma). Your picture doesn't do you justice!
Betsy (@whoamare2). You made me laugh. Thank you! Didn't you say you were Sarah's 3rd cousin? or did I just make that up?
Molly (@mommycoddle) Yes it was a great afternoon. Everyone was so sweet. I'm so happy I made the trip!

The room was filled with Storyboards, pictures and momentos.

I found the wine table ;) and there was a Starbucks table too.

Those of us who were close to Sarah know she loved her wine.
It had a little bit more meaning for me though. I bought the napkins for Sarah last year while I was on vacation. I was so happy to see them on that table.

And the food!

I got to sample many of Sarah's recipes made famous through her blog. Little recipe cards were near the dishes to take home. Such a thoughtful touch!

See the slideshow?
There were so many thoughtful little touches everywhere.
I felt Sarah in that room. I know she was there.

Activities for the kids. It was so nice to meet Sarah and Paul's three beautiful daughters. They were enjoying themselves and I'm sure their mom was smiling proudly.

The last group of pictures are really special.
Maureen and Sarah put together a scrapbook of her online adventures and it included so much of how we knew her. I wanted to read every word but so many other people wanted to see it that I took these pictures to share.

Just Beautiful.

Sarah has the most amazing family and friends.

The day was so special and you could just feel the love and caring.

I'm blessed to have had the opportunity to be there and I'm blessed to have known such a wonderful, loving, thoughtful person.

We miss you Sarah but we carry you in our hearts always.

May

2011-06-01T01:20:00.005-04:00

May was a pretty crappy month.

I lost a good friend to breast cancer.
Another friend was diagnosed with breast cancer.
My dog got really sick.
It took forever for spring to get here.
My daughter is suffering from a severe case of low self esteem.
Mr. had to have a skin biopsy
I've felt kind of lost.

But I have so much to be thankful for.

Like......

Going to Baltimore to visit with family and friends of my friend, Sarah, who passed away.
I firmly believe my friend will kick cancer's ass.
My dog is slowly getting better.
Spring is finally here
My daughter is strong and will work it out.
I have faith in the fact that Mr. will be fine
I realize it's ok to feel lost sometimes
I have wonderful family -- Original, Extended and Blended
My kids are healthy.
My son and daughter in law are expecting their first baby in August.
It's June.

But May was still a crappy month.

Chicago

2011-05-06T22:06:00.008-04:00

A few weeks ago my daughter Danielle and I took a train trip to Chicago. We love spending time together and now that she's working full time in a hospital as a registered nurse (so proud! can ya tell?) we just don't get to spend much time with each other. (she still calls me every night though, I love that)

It was our first train trip and we spent the time talking and checking out each others ipod apps.

Hi Baby Girl

She always makes me smile.

Anyway, we started walking the Magnificent Mile the minute we dropped our bags at the hotel.

I never expected to have so much fun. I knew we'd have a great time but we had such a great time that we've already decided to go back.

We went on a 3 hour segway tour of the Museum District and Millenium Park.
What a riot! If you ever get a chance you have to ride a segway.

Buckingham Fountain

One of the coolest attractions in Millenium Park is "The Bean"

Aptly named yes?
The Bean isn't it's official name but it should be.
It looks like a giant drop of liquid mercury doesn't it?

Fun with our reflection

See that purse?
There's a Coach store on Michigan Ave and my daughter fell in love with that purse. She kept going back to that damn store just to "visit" the purse. It got to the point where the sales lady kept it under the counter and would pull it out as soon as she saw us walk in the door. We went back to that store over 5 times just so she could hold it and pet it and call it George.
I'm not going to tell you how much it cost except to say you could probably find a nice used car for the same price.
And like any other good mom would do, I talked her into buying it. Actually that's not completely true. I really didn't have to talk her into it. She just needed the reassurance that it was OK to spend that kind of money on herself.
Hell, she's single, has a terrific job and no bills other than rent! Could there be a better time?
So she bought it and we had to go right back to the room to change purses. And the whole time we were giggling about how we couldn't believe she spent that much money on a purse. A purse! And how the lady at the Coach store asked us if we were thirsty and did we want some bottled water? Water? How about some champagne?
Well that just sent us into another fit of giggles.

God I love my daughter

But I digress.

This is the view from The Ledge at Skydeck
Over 100 floors up.

Awesome view.

One last pic.
Navy Pier

And there's that purse again.

It's was a great trip. Both of us stepped way our of our comfort zones.
We even decided to get matching tatoos but the shop was closing.
Oh well, there's always next time.

Easter Fun

2011-04-24T10:00:00.002-04:00

We love games. I think we have a game for just about every holiday. You can read about Christmas here.

Easter is the best.

We're a bloodthirsty bunch and with over $150 up for grabs well, it can get a little lively.

First the egg hunt. $100 in various denominations split between 200 or so eggs. There's a $20 some $5's and $10's and lots of quarters. With cash like that everybody wants in.

It's very competitive. To hell with an egg hunt being for kids!

Next, the egg roll.

Everyone starts with 3 1 dollar bills.
Roll your egg and hope that nobody who rolls after you hits it because if they do you give em a dollar.
You get to pick your egg up if you get hit until it's your time to roll again, otherwise it just sits there waiting to be hit.

We each have our own technique for choosing the perfect monster egg. Some think a round egg is best and some swear the smaller, pointier egg is the way to go.
With the right egg and a little luck you can walk away with some serious cash.

My family's been rolling eggs for as long as I can remember.
We started with pennies when I was a baby and now we're up to singles.
It's a tradition I know will last as long as there's an Easter.

Later

2011-03-31T23:37:00.001-04:00

Just not feeling it.

I don't think blogging is for me. Even though I don't post often, it feels like a chore.

I'll probably post once in awhile but I wouldn't hold my breath if I were you ;)

I hope everyone has a terrific Spring & Summer.

Thanks so much for stopping by.

In The 80's

2011-03-16T10:38:00.003-04:00

My daughter-in-law, trainer at the gym and a neighbor are pregnant.

I'm so happy for them and love that they allow me to rub their bellies but it reminds me of how things were when I was carrying my 3 and I have to admit I feel some envy.

Lets go back to the early 80's....

These pretty much sum up the maternity fashions back then.

Flattering? Gag me with a spoon! (80's remember?)

Seriously, look at that. We did everything to try and hide the fact that we had a big belly. It was one step short of being considered sick or incapacitated.

Today women flaunt it and are considered sexy.

I want that.

I want to feel sexy and embrace the changes instead of trying to hide them.

Did I say envy?

I meant jealousy.....full blown jealousy

A Very Special Day

2011-03-07T11:58:00.004-05:00

Let me introduce you to my sisters.

Michelle is on your left and Beth is on the right.
My beautiful daughter Danielle is in the middle.

Today is Michelle's birthday. She's the older sis and of course we love her to pieces.

For the last 5 years, every year on her birthday the whole family goes out to dinner.

It's one of the ways that we cope with the fact that she's no longer here.

5 years ago on January 13th she passed away unexpectedly.

It started as an ordinary day.
But early that morning I received a call from Beth that changed my life forever.

Michelle passed out at work and was being rushed to the hospital.

Out of the blue.....with no warning what so ever.

She never regained consciousness.

A massive aneurysm took her from us.

I miss her every single day. I think of her constantly.

She was such a big part of our family.

But......

We all find tremendous peace in the fact that she knew how much she was loved.

So, tonight we will celebrate her life with laughter, some tears and lots of love.

I miss you so much Michelle.

Love,
Your Sis

Putting it out there

2011-03-02T23:42:00.000-05:00

I'm starting a business and I'm scared to death.

There, I said it. It's out in the universe and I can't take it back.

Shit.

Wish me luck.

I'd like to thank the Academy

2011-02-28T22:43:00.002-05:00

Today my blog was chosen for an award.

I am very flattered and I would like to thank Sarah at Spruce Hill forThe Versatile Blogger Award. Sarah is one of the people that helped me decide to join the blogging community. Please go visit her blog and say hello. She's one of my favorite people and her blog is terrific.
Thanks again for thinking of me girlfriend!

There are a few rules that are attached to this award:

   Thank the person who gave you the award.
   Pass the award on to 10 other versatile bloggers and let them know you did.
   And tell seven fun facts about yourself.

The seven fun facts are the hard part for me but I'll give it a shot.

1.   I love to make people smile.
2.   Road trips are my idea of heaven
3.   It doesn't take much to make me happy
4.   I'm a homebody
5.   Going junking is my favorite pastime
6.   I'm working very hard to overcome perfectionist tendencies
7.   I think Charlie Sheen is the ultimate train wreck

And now I will pass the award to:

http://www.alittlebiteoflife.net/
http://betteroutdoorlivingathome.com/
http://theletteredcottage.net/
http://gosavor.com/
http://funkyjunkinteriors.blogspot.com/
http://www.theshabbychiccottage.net/
http://furrypad.com/
http://castlefarmcookbook.blogspot.com/
http://www.junkmarketstyle.com/junk-blog

From food to junking to doing it yourself.
Am I diverse, or just plain scattered?

Thanks again for thinking of me Sarah.
Time to let these bloggers know how much I like them.

Security Threat

2011-02-16T21:18:00.003-05:00

As I wrote in my previous post I forgot about a utility knife that I had in my purse while boarding a plane for Las Vegas.

We were flying for the first time in years and I was really excited. That sounds lame but we love a good road trip so we drive everywhere.

Anyway, after going through the airport scanner and watching my purse be xrayed. I was asked to step off to the side so I could speak with a Transportation Safety Officer.
My husband and I were laughing about how they must think I'm a terrorist. We figured it was a random check so no big deal.

The TSO was not in a good mood. He asked me if I had anything dangerous in my purse. I told him "no."
He brought my purse over to me and asked me if I consider a knife a weapon.

I started to sweat.

He looked at me like I had just robbed a bank.
It wasn't funny anymore.

And then the lightbulb went on!
My 2" utility knife was in the pocket of my purse. How the hell did I forget about that?

Once I acknowledged that I had a knife the guy turned friendly and said it was a shame to lose such a nice blade. I was upset with myself because I really liked that little knife and it came in handy every once in awhile.

But, it was my fault and it was actually kind of exciting (I don't get out much) so we had another good laugh and continued on our way.

We thought it was over.

We thought wrong.

Zee Plane

2011-02-06T23:00:00.003-05:00

I haven't been on a plane in over 20 years so this trip to Vegas was a real adventure.

As most plane trips do, mine started at the airport.

Now, the last time I flew on a plane there were no security measures and anyone could walk all the way to the gate. Plus you could smoke ON THE PLANE!
And everyone got free headphones to listen to airplane music or watch a free movie.

Ahhh. The good old days.....except for the second hand smoke.

Back to reality.

I forgot I had a 2" utility knife in my purse. I got searched. Didn't think too much about it until later.

Planes are smaller than I remembered too.

We flew Southwest and although the flight crew was great, I wasn't impressed by the overall experience.
Even though we called ahead for seats we didn't get to sit together.
Next time we'll pay a little more and get assigned seats on another carrier cause I wanted to sit next to my guy.

I felt like a kid when we landed. I left every worry and concern on that plane.

And this was to be our home for what turned out to be 5 days instead of 3.

And this is the blue sky and sun that saved me

So much to see and do.

And not enough time right now. Sorry.

Hello From Vegas!

2011-01-31T19:17:00.004-05:00

Just popping in to throw up some pics and let everybody know that we may be stuck here for an extra day or two. Feeling real bad about that last part....extra days in Vegas, bummer..

That huge winter storm is supposed to be dumping 10 or 12 inches of snow in Detroit on the very morning we're supposed to go home....this is very upsetting. hahahahahaha

Anyway, here are just a few pics to hold you over till I have more time.

By the way, so far I've been frisked by homeland security for forgetting to remove a teeny tiny utility knife from my purse before boarding the plane and I met Elmo, Darth Vader, Yoda, Woody and a whole bunch of prostitutes. Fun Fun Fun.

Our Hotel

The Strip

NY NY

Night Time

Be back soon.

Bye Bye

2011-01-27T20:30:00.001-05:00

3 more days.

Vegas.

65 and sunny.

Heaven.

What Keeps You Going?

2011-01-20T11:59:00.002-05:00

Cabin Fever....

I get it bad.

We work out of our home and during the frozen, ugly, cold, gray days of winter, I turn into a sun starved monster.

I hate myself for it but I hate cold and gray even more.

Last year my husband was beside himself with my attitude.
It wasn't pretty.
It wasn't even remotely attractive but God bless his patience and understanding.

Because he is so good to me and because I really want to remain married, I vowed to change.

I wasn't going to be a victim of the crappy Michigan weather any more.

That said, I started

Dragging my lazy butt to the gym. 6 days a week. I love it once I'm there and hey...I have muscle tone again!
Thinking of starting my own business. Love thinking about the possibilities and researching how to start. The prospect of putting myself out there scares me to death but I can do this!
Redecorating my family room again I'm still not loving it yet but I'm enjoying the challenge this time instead of getting frustrated.
Making reservations for Vegas. We go in less than 2 weeks for a 3 day convention. Getting the hell out of Dodge plus it's sunny and warm! Woohoo! Paradise with slot machines!

Duh! It worked.

I still hate everything I hated before but self pity is highly overrated!

And a quick trip to Vegas doesn't hurt either ;)

How about you? What keeps you going?

The Bitch Is Back

2011-01-12T20:28:00.003-05:00

And what's she bitching about now?

WINTER!

Yuck.

Everything is brown & dead if it's not white and dead.

Personally I'd rather have the brown because it doesn't involve shovelling.

And let me tell you.....I do my fair share of shovelling!

I hate cold and I hate dead.

Honestly, which do you prefer?

This?

Or This?

Just needed to get that off my chest.

Outside My Windows

2011-01-08T10:11:00.001-05:00

Right now

Outside my windows

This is my view....

Look Closer

Even the tree is feeling it.

My Heart Breaks

2011-01-06T16:03:00.001-05:00

29 Years ago today I gave birth to my middle child.

A boy.

And although I love all 3 of my children equally and with a passion only other mother's will understand,
Well,
Just look at that face.

This is the picture I carry in my wallet.
Whenever I look at it I have no choice but to smile.
That face just breaks my heart.....in a good way.

And this just breaks my heart too.

All grown up.
It kills me.

But in a good way.

Belated Happy New Year!

2011-01-04T11:20:00.005-05:00

Happy New Year everyone. Better late than never!

What did you do this year?

We decided to stay in.

A nice quiet evening at home.

Yeah....right

My Niece and Granddaughter asked if they could have a sleepover.

They said I was "COOL" and they wanted to party with me.

bwahahahahahahaha

What a hysterical line of crap.

But I couldn't possibly turn them down after that now could I?

I was going to take them for mani/pedi's but they wanted to do each others nails.

Sweet.

I saved $30 and they couldn't stop giggling.

We watched movies and consumed as much sugar as humanly possible

And what's a sleepover without a little attitude? Note the head tilt....

At midnight we did the obligatory banging of the pots and pans and then they got comfy and took turns on the laptop

And at 12:45am they gracefully accepted the fact that it was time for some sleep

Goodnight girls!

We'll do this again.

Soon

Because being "Cool" is very short lived.

It's Over

2010-12-27T21:58:00.001-05:00

The tree is down and decorations packed away.

I love the two weeks they're up but once Christmas is over, it's over.

Now I start on a project to get me through the winter. Two years ago I painted the family room, foyer and hallway. Last year I repainted the family room, foyer and hallway.

3 guesses what I'm doing this winter.

Blessed

2010-12-25T22:45:00.001-05:00

Yesterday Ed & I took the kids out to dinner.

We had the best time. Lots of laughing and stories and the food was terrific.

Today we were all together at my mom's for Christmas dinner and it was the same. So much laughing and great food and the best wine I've ever had.

I am so blessed.

Oh, and I won the $20 too. Read about the game we play here Traditions Got 20 out of 22 correct.

It's been a really good Christmas this year.

I hope you're all enjoying it too!

Happy Holidays!

2010-12-22T23:22:00.000-05:00

This time last year each day seemed to drag. I remember feeling really unsettled, restless and maybe even slightly depressed. I couldn't figure it out.

This year is completely opposite. Time is just flying by. I'm busy, comfortable and happy.

Funny what a difference a year can make

Because I've been so busy my blogging has taken a backseat. There just always seems to be something else more important to do. Which makes me wonder just how important blogging is to me. I need to think about that.

In the meantime, I'd like to wish everyone who stops by a very peaceful, happy holiday. May you get everything you want and want everything you get!

Happy Holidays Everyone!

Traditions That Cause A Stir

2010-12-10T10:30:00.005-05:00

After dinner is over and the presents are open, what do you do on Christmas?

Do you take a nap? Watch TV? Start a family argument?

Our tradition is to play an ornament matching game. And yes, agruments have ensued.

The object is to match the ornament to the person it was bought for.
Winner is the person who has the most correct answers.
The prize is $20, hence the possibility of an argument.

We're greedy......and competitive ;-)

Since Mom/Grandma knows the most about what's going on with the family, she buys the ornaments.
Most years there's around 25 of us give or take (divorce, births, breakups......you never know from one year to the next).

Just to give you an example of how this works, if one of the grand kids gets his drivers license she might buy a new car ornament...or better still, a wrecked car ornament. Now that seems pretty simple and you'd think that most of us would guess who it belongs to pretty quickly, but if she buys the wrecked car ornament and one of us has had an accident in the last year, well....you get the idea. A lot of guessing and swearing is involved.

We each take a turn unwrapping an ornament and they go on display for everyone to see.

Once they're all opened she hands us a list with everyone's name on it and it's time to match the ornament to the person.

This part of the game can be pretty amusing. It's not unusual to overhear such remarks as...

Who plays baseball?
Did someone get a new job?
Hey, there's only 1 football player and 3 kids play!
What's with the lottery ornament? DID SOMEONE WIN THE LOTTERY?????

While this is going on my mom sits in the corner with screwy smile on her face.

She loves the confusion and guessing and snarky comments we make.

These are some of my ornaments. They were pretty easy for everyone to guess.

The year we bought our house
My kids ( this one is over 20 yrs old )
The year I took my mom to Florida

These next ones were harder to figure out. They were bought for me but not for reasons obvious to everyone, including myself. This is where you have to try and think like my mom and that's kind of scary.

I rented a snow cone machine for a party one year. She saw the ice cream cones and thought "close enough"
We had dinner at a retro restaurant one year, it had a juke box
The boot should have been for my sis but mom thought I was the one that bought a new pair of hiking boots. (That little faux pas caused quite a stir)
This last one was titled "Holiday Stress" Everyone thought it was meant for them hahaha, nobody got it right but me :)

This was the ornament from last year.

The picture was taken on my 4th birthday. My first bike.

How cool was that?

It really is a lot of fun. And yes, we do have our arguments and little spats but what's a little dissension amongst family when big bucks are involved?

Time Flies

2010-12-01T23:40:00.007-05:00

It's hard to believe that it's been almost a month since my last post. A few months ago it seemed like I had nothing but time and now it's just flying by! I thought about wishing it to slow down a little but since it's getting cold and miserable outside I'll pass.

Things have been a little hectic around here.

My mom had a double mastectomy 2 weeks before Thanksgiving. She's doing great. That Timex commercial keeps popping into my head though. you know, "Takes a lickin & keeps on tickin" Not to be disrespectful or anything but it does keep popping in there.

Organizing Thanksgiving just kind of fell in my lap. Tradition has everyone converging at Mom's and she wanted to keep it that way. Everybody pitched in and helped and we all lived to talk about it.

My little sister went through a nasty divorce and fell right into an emotionally abusive relationship. She's at her wits end but keeps going back. This has been going on for over six months and I'm tired of scraping her up off the floor. I don't get it, it's not like her to be so needy but she is my sis. I'm here for her but there's a limit and I've just about reached it.

Work has been just that. Not complaining, not at all. I'm so grateful that we're busy and I like what I do. We landed a big confusing contract and I'm learning as I go. Budgeting my time is something I haven't had to do for awhile and I didn't realize how much I missed it plus I love a challenge.

My son was in a car accident. No one was hurt but his car was totalled. We're all pitching in with rides and such until the insurance company settles. It's always something isn't it?

There's a critter in the attic and he's not cooperating with his capture. Every night around 10:00 we hear gnawing and scratching. It's loud which leads me to believe it's bigger than a mouse. We want to trap it humanely but it can't stay up there much longer. I'm afraid it might get into the walls or maybe have babies or bring in the Aunts, Uncles and cousins.

Oh yeah,

Mailbox baseball.

Woke up one morning to a trashed mailbox and the mail all over the yard.
Looking closer we discovered that it wasn't a bat that did it in.

Somebody hit it with their car. See the tire tracks? We know the car was damaged too because we found pieces of head light and fender a little further down the street. I mentioned to my husband that maybe the drunken idiot will come back to the scene of the crime and volunteer to pay for a new box.

He found that extremely funny.

Our water tank tanked. hahaha
I would've taken pictures of that too but I was busy sucking and sopping.

Life, ya gotta love it.

Fun Monday

2010-11-08T20:59:00.002-05:00

Today for Fun Monday our host Julie at Another Chance Ranch wants to hear about our Thanksgiving plans.

Our Thanksgivings take place at my Mom's house. There's usually about 23 of us, give or take. I think our menu is pretty traditonal.

My mom takes care of the turkey, stuffing, sweet potatoes, asparagus, cream sauce and rolls.

My sister Beth makes a tossed salad and green bean casserole.

Sis in law brings desserts

I bring a different sweet potato casserole each year, a new dessert that I'm dying to try and my specialty, mushrooms au gratin.

We eat early, usually around 1 or so.

Once we're done eating we turn on the Lions game and watch them lose.

This year will be a little different because my mom is having a mastectomy in a few days. Since she has no idea what she'll be able to handle and since we really want her to take it easy we're splitting up her part of the menu amongst us.

This is going to be really interesting because my mom is a total control freak and we're going to make her sit in the family room and do nothing. I have a feeling that her healing from the surgery is going to be easier than being forced to sit in a chair and relinquish control while we're all creating a disaster in her kitchen.

Should be interesting.

Sunday Confessional

2010-11-03T16:04:00.034-04:00

My Desk

In My Defense: Busy week

Penance or Absolution.....You decide

Fun Monday

2010-11-01T11:36:00.000-04:00

Our Host for fun Monday this month is Julie at Another Chance Ranch

She wants to know our opinions regarding the state of our country. This is how she puts it:

" I want to know your opinions. I want to know what you think about the state of our country. is there a particular issue being voted on that you feel strongly about? What are your thoughts? Keep in mind, I don't want to know whether you are a Democrat or a Republican. I am just curious as to what is going through your mind."

Well, quite frankly I'm scared.

For me this isn't a Republican or Democratic issue.

This country was founded on certain ideals and many of those ideals are being compromised. In my opinion those ideals are being compromised not for the good of America but for votes.

Our polititians no longer work FOR us.

This is not what America is about.

Just my opinion

Ups and Downs

2010-10-27T21:11:00.000-04:00

It's been a little weird around here the last few days.

We've kind of run the gamut of emotions.

I went with my mom to a few doctors appointments. Most everything the doctors say is very positive. She has breast cancer but she's doing remarkably well.

I've been spending time with my sister. She went through a pretty nasty divorce recently so I've been giving her some moral support. She has 2 teenage boys and it's been rough on everyone.

My husband landed a really nice account. He's been working on it since early September and we found out that his bid was chosen. I'm very proud of him and we're both really excited.

The hardest issue to deal with this past week was the death of my 13 year old dog, Sparky. He died suddenly after a short illness. We weren't prepared but we're dealing with it.

My favorite picture.....

He was such a sweetie.

We're sad but we have wonderful memories.

Second Chances

2010-10-18T10:48:00.000-04:00

If you could go back, what would you do different?

Think about it.

If you had the opportunity to change the way you did something in the past what would it be?

I've decided that I would have finished college. I dropped out when I got married and never went back.

That wasn't my first choice though. My first choice was to never have been married to my first husband. Problem with that is I wouldn't have my 3 wonderful kids and I can't imagine life without them so I'll go with finishing college.

How about you? What would you do different?

The Winner

2010-10-13T15:22:00.000-04:00

The correct answer to my first Giveaway is Patricia Heaton.
The winner chosen at random from the correct entries is....

Spruce Hill! Congratulations Sarah! You were the first entry too!

A big Thank You to everyone who entered!

It was a learning experience for me but I really enjoyed it so you can count on more in the not too distant future.

Your candle is on it's way Sarah.

My Epiphany

2010-10-11T20:39:00.002-04:00

A few days ago my Mom had a lumpectomy. I've been her caregiver since then, living with her for the last 4 days and I have a confession to make.

First the really good news, Mom is doing really well. She literally bounced right back. Test results should be in later this week but according to the surgeon she should be cancer free.

Next some background. I love my Mom with all my heart and we have always been extremely close. We used to spend a lot of time together but that changed about 4 years ago.

Now for the confession:

For some reason my Mom started getting on my nerves, a lot, and in my head I blamed it on her. I made one excuse after another about why I didn't want to spend time with her.

During that time I remarried and moved about an hour away. Another legitimate reason to not have to spend time with her....at least that's how I rationalized it.

Now, because of the surgery, we were thrown together and I found myself resenting her even more.
I knew that she didn't deserve my resentment so I've been really good about not showing it but that doesn't change the fact that it's there. So, I started doing some soul searching and the things I found out about myself weren't pretty.

I came to the realization that I am pretty darn selfish. Here I was thinking I'm a pretty good person and reality slaps me right in the face and shows me what an uncaring bitch I can really be.

Did my conscience stop there? Hell no. The can had been opened and worms were everywhere so why should it stop now?

The kicker?

I have issues about getting old.

Yep according to my conscience, I resent my mom for the inevitability of aging.

Aren't I a whack job of a daughter!

Well, that's it. I'd like to thank you for joining me in the confessional. Please feel free to give me the appropriate penance. Your thoughts and insights are always welcome.

A Teeny Tiny Giveaway

2010-10-06T10:53:00.018-04:00

I feel like sharing today.

So I'm having a Teeny Tiny Giveaway.

In keeping with the season, here's the prize:

A Pumpkin Pie scented candle

The discription on the container reads:

"Spicy pumpkin puree smoothly combined with

sweet vanilla cream and gingerbread cookie."

It smells sooooo good.

Too win this "smells so good I could eat it candle" ?

Guess who the person is on MY LEFT.

That's me in the middle with my little sis on my right and my cousin on my left.

Yep, I have a famous cousin!!

This picture was my 15 minutes of fame! It was in "The Star" tabloid back in August of 2002.

The original picture was taken around 1975.

Ahhhh to be a teenager again.....

Hint: she is an *Emmy Award* winning actress for a previously aired sitcom that ran for 9 yrs. She received her Emmy's in 1999 and 2000.

I guess there should be some rules:

1 guess per person please.

Comments will not be hidden because I can't figure out how to do it.
I take that back, I figured out how to hide them.

        Please follow my blog or give me another way to reach you.
        The winner will be chosen at random from all correct entries.
        Contest closes midnight Eastern time on Tuesday Oct 12

Winner will be announced and contacted Wednesday Oct 13

Good Luck!

Writers Block

2010-10-01T23:27:00.002-04:00

What if I don't have anything really interesting to blog?

I was afraid this would happen.

Let's see....

My mom goes in for her lumpectomy this coming week. Her doctors think she's stage 1 or 2. We're really optimistic.

Does anyone else hate Kohls dressing rooms? They have the most unflattering lighting.

I never had a favorite apple until I ate a Honeycrisp. Best apple I've ever had. What's your favorite?

I miss celebrating Halloween

Fashion sense is not one of my strong points. How I envy women who can envision an outfit and throw it together.

Speaking of fashion, what's your favorite clothing store? Kohls used to be mine but I've discovered J Jill.

Do you or your kids go "Haunted Housing"?

Can a person have writer's block if they're not considered a writer?

OK, I'm done.

Harvest Festival

2010-09-25T13:45:00.001-04:00

A quick tour of my little town.

We actually have a Main Street. I love towns with a Main Street.

We're having our Harvest Festival this weekend

And here's our Mill Pond. During the summer we have concerts and duck races.

It's hard to believe Costco, Kohls, Meijers and Target are less than 2 miles away.

She's My Mom!

2010-09-15T11:12:00.008-04:00

I found something out about my Mom this weekend that really shocked the hell out of me.

First I found out that she went in for a breast biopsy a few days before. She didn't tell anyone and results aren't conclusive yet but she never misses a mammogram so I know she's going to be just fine!!

As shocked and concerned as I am about the biopsy, well, call me a bad daugher but that wasn't the real shocker for the day...not to minimize it of course but....

The thing that shocked me the most, the thing that made me suck in my breath and almost fall off my chair was that my Mom, the Lady who:

.....Never argued with my dad

.....Had dinner on the table everyday at 6:30

.....Got dressed the minute she woke up. No pajamas all day for her.

.....Could multi task like nobody's business, 5 kids and she
       always had it together.

.....Accomplished exactly what she wanted just by saying
       "Because I said so" or "Wait till your Father gets home"

.....Never swore.
      (The one time she said "Damn" everybody froze, everybody. I was 13
       or 14 and had friends over at the time and even they thought hell
       had frozen over.)

.....Was always there for me.

.....Has Always reminded me of June Cleaver

.....is not an actual person because she is my MOM

That very Lady who's been on God's earth for 78 years

Ready?

That very Lady has

BREAST IMPLANTS!!!!!

Yes, I said Breast Implants.

I didn't even think she knew what they were!

She's my MOM for crying out loud!!!!

I was stunned.

The conversation went something like this:

Mom: "I had a breast biopsy last week. The results aren't in yet but I'm
           sure I'll be fine"
Me:    "Gosh mom.......I'd've gone with you......are you ok?
Mom:  "I'm fine, but I would like you to go with me to learn the results"
Me:    " Sure, absolutely. You sure you're ok?"
Mom: " I'm fine....honest. I wonder if any of this will effect my implants"
Me:    "Gosh I don't know....wait.....wha.....what did you say??? Did you
           just say implants????"
Mom *looking at me like I'm the one who's crazy*
         "Yeah, remember back in the 70's when Aunt Rosie & I went
           in for implants?"
Me:    "YOU AND AUNT ROSIE GOT IMPLANTS??? HOLY SHIT
           MOM..............DID DAD KNOW????"
Mom" "lower your voice dear....of course your father knew.....
          he paid for them"
Me:    *staring blankly*
          "Holy Shit"
Mom: "Watch your mouth"
Me:    " Holy Shit"
Mom: " Well, you know everybody was getting them back then
             and I really didn't have any boobs to speak of........."

My mom said "boobs".....

Me:    *staring at my flat chest*
          "Crap"
Mom: "I wonder if they'll be able to work around em"
Me:    " Jeez........"
Mom: "Are you ok? I thought I told you......"
Me:    "No ya didn't....
Mom: "Well, I guess I'll just have to do what I have to do"
Me:    "Holy Shit"

My mom has implants.
I don't know if I'll ever get over it.

Sure, I'm worried about the biopsy, but I can't get past the implants.

That seems so wrong.....

Thankful Thursday

2010-09-09T12:25:00.004-04:00

"Another Chance Ranch" is a blog that I really enjoy and the author, Julie has a post titled Thankful Thursday. It's a great idea so I'm giving her credit, attaching the link, http://bit.ly/akpND7 and writing a few Thanks of my own.

I'm Thankful for my husband because he knows MOST of my flaws and continues to love me in spite of them.

I'm Thankful for finally figuring out how to make a good cup of coffee with my new coffeemaker & for discovering Vanilla flavored Maxwell House.

I'm Thankful for being able to work from home.
In the winter when it's cold and gray this can be a curse because some days I'm feeling all warm and cozy & I might not want to get out of my PJ's, but hey....I deal with it.

I have to add that I'm thankful for my kids and my health. Those are big ones that can't be overlooked.

Thanks Julie, it's a great idea and it gave me something to write about today!

Random Pics

2010-09-03T00:09:00.007-04:00

One of the reasons it took awhile for me to join the blogging craze was because I just didn't think I had enough interesting stuff to write about. That and my writing skills. Or serious lack thereof.

This post is testament to the fact that I was right about the interesting stuff comment & that I'm actually ok with it.

Meet Sparky.

He's old, pretty much blind and almost totally deaf. It's gotten to the point where he has to go everywhere I go, like a little old man afraid to be left behind. I love him.

This is my first born on his wedding day almost 3 years ago. Where did the time go? I know it's cliche' but it really does seem like it was just yesterday that I was holding him as close as possible swearing I would never, ever let him go.

Summer

Winter

I pick Summer

We've recently been visited by a hawk. He's beautiful isn't he? The chipmunk population is down too so that's a plus.

My daughter and my niece. I'm so happy they're as close as sisters. My daughter is very close to her brothers but sometimes you just gotta have a sister.

Speaking of sisters, I'll introduce you to mine as soon as I get a new scanner.
I love my sisters.

Accommodations

2010-08-22T13:26:00.036-04:00

Ever want to stay at a Bed & Breakfast?

If your answer is "no" than we used to have something in common.

I don't know about you but whenever I visit someone I insist on staying in a hotel. This isn't because I don't want to be a bother. If someone wants to go out of their way for me I'm all for it. No, I stay in hotels because I like my privacy and I don't want to worry about someone walking in on me when I'm in the bathroom.

That's kind of what I thought a Bed & Breakfast was like. You know, sharing a bathroom with strangers, no privacy and having to fight over the remote.

I couldn't have been more wrong.
Yes, I said wrong. It happens once in a while

I have found my new favorite form of accommodation.

A Rustic Bed & Breakfast

We recently took a few days and travelled to Michigan's West Coast. We visited what's known as Harbor Country. A group of small cities located right on Lake Michigan.

Quaint Little Towns

Sugar Sand Beaches

Mesmerizing Sunsets

Lots & Lots of Junking!

And my first experience at a Bed & Breakfast.

We stayed at two different Inns. The first one is located in Union Pier and it's very old and rustic. Have I ever mentioned I love rustic? This place reminded me of the antique shops I love to visit.

The Inn At Union Pier

I Loved this place from the moment we pulled up. It was covered with trees and flowers and you could literally feel the ambiance. The owner, Bill, met us at the door and showed us around.

We felt right at home except for the fresh lemonade and cookies that were waiting in the parlor. (I have never in my life made lemonade from actual lemons and I only bake cookies at Christmas)

Honestly we were treated like royalty.

I was hooked.

Our Room

We never once felt uncomfortable or cramped. Our room was huge and even though all 12+ rooms were occupied we rarely saw any of the other guests.

Breakfast was served in The Great Room (pic is off website) and it was delicious!

The gardens and patios were beautiful and we just fell in love.

One of the patios

Our second Inn was just as special but in a different way. It's located in South Haven and practically sits on the beach.

Yelton Manor

Although not as rustic, I fell in love all over again the moment we saw it. The gardens were spectacular.

Our room was to die for. We had a 4 poster king bed. I needed to use the little stool to get into it! Haha

Now for the little touches that made it so special.

The owners, Robert & Elaine really went out of their way to make it a memorable experience. Little things like having the menues & revues to nearby restaurants handy & providing maps they created to places they thought we would enjoy. And did I mention snacks? You couldn't take 5 steps without running into something homemade & yummy or filled with chocolate!

Fresh Popped Popcorn All Day Long

The rooms and decor were so inviting.

So Cozy

We had breakfast here every morning

The most delicious breakfasts were made here

All of the rooms were filled with interesting books

The only downside? Slightly more expensive but I really don't care. It was worth every penny.

I was pampered and fed and made to feel special.....just like I deserve.

For those of you who've stayed at one, I'd love to hear about your experience!

And those of you who were never interested, did I change your mind?

A Teaser

2010-08-19T15:45:00.002-04:00

Just got back from 4 days on Michigans West Coast.

It was so restful and peaceful. We were lazy and pampered and actually lost track of time!

But now we're home , doing laundry, watering plants and playing catch-up.

So until I can write a complete post I'll leave you with these:

Kidnapped!

2010-07-25T10:56:00.003-04:00

My brother and his family were camping on Lake Michigan and I went to visit for the day. When I got there the kids were all excited because:

"Aunt Teri is staying".

"Nope, can't stay, just here for a few hours"

"Dad says you're staying for a couple days"

"Hahaha. No I can't. I have stuff to do at home and besides, I didn't bring any extra clothes"

"Dad says it's all worked out and you're supposed to look in the back of your car hahahaha"

Well, Dad ( My younger brother Jeff) was just standing there smiling and nodding while his wife Maria was doing the same.

The kids ran to the back of my car, popped the hatch and pulled out a duffel bag.

I stood there with my mouth open and a stupid expression on my face while the kids laughed like crazy and danced around chanting..... "Aunt Teri's staying. Aunt Teri's staying"

I did not put that bag in my car. I wasn't staying. My husband was on the road everyday and I was needed to answer the phones for our business. The flowers needed watering and the dogs had to be let out.

Me: "I don't know how that got there or even what's in it but I can't stay"

Jeff: "Ed packed your bag....don't worry, Maria told him what to pack. He's taking care of the house. You're staying"

Kids: "Aunt Teri's staying.....Aunt Teri's staying....

And Aunt Teri stayed.

No phone reception, no internet. No flowers to water or dogs to let out. No dishes to wash or house to clean. The weather was perfect and I loved being with my brother and his kids.

A short walk to a perfect sandy beach.

The kids picked the perfect spot.

It seemed like you could walk out forever and the water only came up to your waist.

We had such a great time, the beach everyday, bonfire every night, telling jokes and the kids putting on plays.

The only thing we didn't take into consideration was my camera dying!

Next time I'm kidnapped I hope to be better prepared.

Keeping My Husband Happy

2010-07-18T22:42:00.001-04:00

Today while we were working outside my husband told me that most men like to keep their women happy.

At first I laughed and thought "Cool....keep me happy"

Then I thought a little deeper and wasn't so sure that the "kept" part was something I liked the sound of.

When I asked him exactly what he meant he said "When I make you laugh it makes me happy. When you seem content, it makes me happy. When you go shopping and buy something for yourself that makes you smile, that makes me happy."

He's has no idea how happy I plan on making him.

Balloonfest

2010-07-02T09:53:00.131-04:00

This really was very cool.

I've lived in my little town for over 4 years now and I finally made it a point to get to balloonfest in a neighboring city.

It's a 3 day festival that started in 1984 and I've been told that every year it gets bigger and bigger.

Nothing but blue skies, sunshine and lots and lots of people.

Oh, there was a pretty good band

And some rides

But we were there for the balloons. (and maybe an elephant ear)

Very interesting and colorful

There's an announcer who explains the process, talks about the pilots and keeps the crowd entertained.

Once they get started it really is an awsome sight.

I never thought about how much is involved.

I'm not sure how they decide who lifts off first but as each balloon goes up the announcer introduces the pilot and everybody cheers

And waves

Pretty soon the sky begins to fill up

And more begin to lift off

And before long this is what the sky looks like.

Really cool

Thats it right?

We're all done. The last balloons are lifing off and I can go get my elephant ear.

Not so fast. (darn)

Just so happens that there is something called the "Glow"

It starts at dusk

And it's when the pilots set up all over again

So that we can experience this

The balloons are inflated but they don't take off. Instead of being allowed to ascend, they are held down by the ground crew and the propane burners are periodically ignited so that they stay inflated with hot air. They "Glow" when they're ignited.

It was quite a sight.

It really was a great day except I never did get that elephant ear.

I'll have to make sure I go back next year.

Rollin' On The River

2010-06-25T22:46:00.002-04:00

We spent last Sunday on the Detroit River.

I know people hear "Detroit" and think... ewwwww.

We love the river though.

Our dock

View off the back

The Detroit Shoreline

We have freighters

Boblo Boats

Surprises

2010-06-19T23:26:00.020-04:00

One day last week was my birthday.

I normally don't celebrate but.......

My daughter surprised me with this.

Too Cute!

My Guy surprised me with this tie dye dress. (Turn to page 30. Sorry)

http://tinyurl.com/2a8rn77

LOVE IT.

And my sis surprised me with dinner out.

I've always believed that it's better to give than receive.

But this receiving feels pretty damn good too!

A Pond, Frogs and A Not So Happy Ending

2010-06-15T22:35:00.009-04:00

We sit here every morning, drink coffee and plan our day.

It's peaceful and beautiful and we like to watch the local residents.

We have quite a few of these inhabitants but lately I noticed some of them were missing.
The place was looking a little empty.

Am I crazy for thinking this is frog paradise?

Is it possible they found a nicer pond in the neighborhood?

I was beginning to feel insulted.

And then I saw this.

I don't suppose gardner snakes are vegetarians?

The Best Gift

2010-06-04T21:56:00.021-04:00

For as long as I can remember my Mom had pictures of me and my sibs on her bedroom wall. Each pic was taken on the day of our Christening and they were all done in the same style, Black & White pic in black oval frame.

Two years ago she gave that picture to me for my birthday. And in the same box was a picture of my daughter that mom had taken 19 years earlier on her Christening day. We're both wearing the same Christening gown and we're both the same age. I never knew that picture of my daughter existed. My mom kept it a secret all those years and waited until she felt the time was right before she gave it to me.

Thanks again Mom. It was the best gift ever.

Boat Trip

2010-05-27T21:39:00.117-04:00

If all was right with the world I would be vacationing in the Bahamas right now

Hell, if all was right with the world I'd be living in the Bahamas but stuff happens and our vacation was cancelled so I thought I'd go back and remember one of the best vacations I ever took.

Ever been on a Houseboat?

Outside

Inside

The scenery was beautiful.

It was sunny and in the 90's.

Hot Tub. I don't think so

Heaven

Exploring

Caught lots of fish

Morning

Sunset

One of the best vacations we've ever taken.

Winter Survival

2010-05-26T12:59:00.005-04:00

Every year right after the Holidays I think of a project that will totally consume me because I hate winter.

If ever a person needs medication for depression, it's me in the winter.
I've lived in Michigan for all of my life except for about 6 years in the 80's and for the life of me, when winter hits, I have a hard time justifying my reason for staying.

This year I decided to paint the combined area of my dining and living room.

Dining Area

(I was dog sitting)

Living Room

(that one is mine)

It's a pretty big area with a certain wall that just drove me nuts.

The Wall

This wall killed me. I would lay awake at night for hours just letting it drive me crazy.

(see previous post on obsession)

So, I painted it this color.

Kind of a dark sagey green

I kind of loved it at first.

But, could I let it alone? Of course not. Because it just didn't grab me completely. Because it wasn't perfect.

So, with the help of some twitter friends ( you know who you are) I decided to step out of my neutral color comfort zone and I came up with this.

We'll just call this "Wrong in every way"

I lived with it for a few sleepless nights, agonizing over what the hell I was going to do and then I came up with this.

Perfect

I love this color.

I'm still accessorizing and I really want a plasma TV instead of that huge screen but I can honestly say that the color of this wall is no longer keeping me up at night.

And once I got started the time just flew by and before I knew it was almost Spring.

Definitely a win-win situation.

I'd love to hear any thoughts and suggestions.

I'll post pics of the rest of the room soon. I could use some help on window treatments seeing as how that is what's keeping me from sleeping through the night lately.

An Explanation

2010-05-22T10:42:00.000-04:00

I obsess
About everything.

It doesn't matter how trivial or mundane or inconsequential. Once it pops into my head, I obsess about it.

I wasn't always like this.

There was a time when I just went with the flow, Took each day as it came and really, really loved my life.

The last time I remember feeling that way was my senior year of High School.
1975
I looked like this.

Naturally blonde hair, a size 5 and not a care in the world.

Excuse me. I need a moment of silence to mourn.

Somewhere between then and now I very slowly became an obsessive compulsive twit.

The reason why it took so long to get this blog running is because I recreated it at least 50 times. No lie.

It was just another thing I took to extremes and obsessed about.

So, here it is. Take it or leave it.

I swear by all that is good and holy I am not going to tweak this after I publish it.

God help me.

I'm done

Hello

2010-05-21T23:18:00.000-04:00

Well, here I am.
It's taken me months to get this blog together. Kinda sad, I know.
I have issues.
For now I just want to say "Hi" and "Welcome"